Relationship information
Relationship overview/need to know first.
I'm a cis male and gay and attracted to cis men.
I tend to love non-American accents and anything but the Midwest dialect.
I'm a writer, so you can also learn about me through my writing and professional website
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I typically date outside my ethnicity and culture. If you're white, I'll pick someone culturally and ethnically different than me first.
I tend to write to people a lot or talk on the phone long before I meet you. If you don't want lengthy letters and lengthy conversations before meeting me, don't date me.
Here's a podcast interview I did about dating as a blind man that's a good audio introduction.
Look below for more details!
Turn on's.
- EMPATHY! See below.
- Cuddles.
- Huge hands wherein we can hand hug and where I can play in your palms.
- Masculine voice or non-American accents.
- Talks a lot but is also observant.
- Protective. Alpha male type, yes, like in Romance novels but not overbearing or demanding.
- Inquisitive, emotionally sensitive, giver. An emotional genius. Empathy off the charts!
Turn off's.
- Smokes cigarettes.
- hyper sexual. I'm Demisexual. The point is, not as sexually active as I once was due to abuse and trauma.
Relationship deep dive.
Again, I'm a cis male attracted to other gay cis men.
I'm nerdy, have a soft, musically inclined, kind of feminine voice but I'm still masculine. Everybody says I have an extremely cute voice despite the stutter. I'm always extremely self-conscious about my stutter. I think, as soon as people hear me, they're internally vomiting and grimacing and rolling their eyes and stuff. But I've been told I'm easy to listen to, which honestly blows my mind.
I love very hard. I'm the kind of person that's a fighter, but I'm also a lover as well, and I love harder than I fight. I know the injustices of the world because I'm a Disabled, gay man, and so if I can make someone happy, if I could make someone's day better by listening to them, giving them advice, making them feel seen and heard and appreciated, that makes me beyond happy. I love people very deeply, and I often cry sometimes when people say mushy things in movies. Hell, I cry sometimes when friends and family tell me that they love me. I'm very emotionally expressive.
I am dreamy, peaceful, and youthful. Optimistic and caring, I tend to see the best in people. I tend to be always smiling - and making others smile. I am definitely not shy but I am a homebody and love quiet time with me and another person. I am a serial cuddler. I am a very hard worker. I am dependable, popular to a point. I am not swarming with friends but at the same time, I have very close friends. I call these people my Found Family. I hope to add you to my Found Family someday! I don't get jealous. I don't see jealousy as a good trait, at all. I am also observant. Deep and thoughtful, I always think about what I am going to do and what will happen if I do it. I am quirky, creative, and expressive, as you can see here.
As I said, I'm very emotionally expressive. I'd love it if a man could make me feel safe. Someone that can be my rock kind of when we're at home, with the door shut, and the world isn't invading in our space. At home, that's where I want to have the ability to just feel without worry, because I know my partner, whoever he is, will be there to catch me before I fall, but also be gentle enough to tell me that everything will be okay, and that, in this cruel world, his heart is all mine! One more thing about me. I hold hands and touch and cuddle and snuggle way more than anybody else on the planet. Just a warning sign!
As for what I am NOT into... camping. hiking. NO WAY! Instead, let's do something fun like sneak into a school playground and kiss on the big slide or the jungle gym. I've thought about what it would be like to go for a nice cycle through the washer and or dryer. Take me to a ball pit. Let's play a game of dungeons and dragons in the ball pit, even.
I'm emotionally expressive and emotionally needy. I like a man who will give me loads of non sexual physical attention but knows not to break my boundaries when I say leave me be for a few hours to read a book or listen to a Netflix show or something.
A deal breaker for me is smokers. Just, no! No way. Nope! I don't care about pot/weed, as long as it isn't cloaking you. LOL! I actually think it should be legalized nationwide, but I just don't like smokers that make the whole house smell like a chimney. Just no! I also don't smoke, period, at all. I don't drink either.
As I said, I'm totally blind, which means unable to see anything, including what people look like. I, unfortunately, am not drama free, but I do take my drama and turn it into personal essays for others to read and learn from. I do stutter, and I do have cerebral palsy, but I'm very expressive emotionally. In fact, I'd even go as far to say these are my biggest traits, is that I'm emotionally examining everyone and everything. It helps for when they need a shoulder to cry on later, because I always know the right things to say. It also helps with the writing, as well.
Partner ideals.
For a partner, I'd ideally like to find someone that is ethnically, and or, whichever, culturally, different from me, that's willing to give me wisdom while holding me like I'm five years old again. Someone that I can share my writings with, because that's the best way for others to get a sense of who I am, how I think, and why I feel the way that I feel. I'd like to find someone that is talkative without being aggressive, contemplative without being distant, a good listener as his hands wrap me up in a blanket of emotional peace.
I'd love it if a man could make me feel safe. Someone that can be kind of like my alpha bear kind of when we're at home, with the door shut, and the world isn't invading in our space. At home, that's where I want to have the ability to just feel without worry, because I know my partner, whoever he is, will be there to catch me before I fall, but also be gentle enough to tell me that everything will be okay, and that, in this cruel world, his heart is all mine!
I'd also love a man that is very protective of me, kind of like my alpha husband, but I'd love a strong, manly alpha that can melt for me! I'd love a strong, sexy, alpha man that won't get offended if I disagree with him on a notion or disagree with him about having wine or if I don't want to do something he doesn't want to do. At the same time, I'd love a man that will protect me, through and through! I'm guessing that's because I've been raped, and abused, and beaten, and bruised, so many times that I just don't feel safe in the world anymore so I'm looking for someone I can let go with and I know he'll protect me. Even though he'll be an alpha, I'd want him to still continue to give me agency and love, along with the hot sex, but love will come first!
More about me.
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